Finding your voice

It has always fascinated me how some rarely pause to breathe and to draw words out of others is like drawing water out of the proverbial stone. I recall many years ago asking my beloved husband a question and then relaxing because I knew it would get him going! I did not know he would talk without a pause for an hour and half! Many of us speak far too much, without thought to the quality of our content. We do not check whether it is wise, truthful, constructive, compassionate, fair. Most of what we talk about is trivial garbage. I myself am guilty of exaggeration. I tell a story on courses to illustrate the power of seeing God in others. It takes a good few minutes to relate and I love narrating it. One day I checked the details in the book from which it came. Imagine my surprise to find it was described in 3 lines. I had embellished it to the extent that many details were a total figment of my imagination. It was a good story though!

So why this article? Why find your voice? Your voice is the one of the most neglected and overlooked aspects of ourselves. Ancient cultures believed in the power of sound and the human voice, for instance the Mayans believed that the world was created by song. Harmonious sounds were particularly appreciated and singing or speaking with thought and care, unlike the examples I describe above, were understood to increase the creation of a beautiful world. My purpose in describing our chattering in the paragraph above was with this in mind. Are we adding to the creation of a beautiful world by communicating mindlessly?

Years ago, spending many hours counselling on the telephone, I became sensitized to a person’s voice and was fascinated to discover how much could be read into the sound: honesty, self-awareness, suffering, strength, self-pity, in short the general feeling of connectedness or otherwise could be heard in the voice. Our voices reflect our persona.

Each of us has a sound which is true to us. When we discover it, it rings a note which feels as though we have found ourselves. It gives us, in a truly positive sense, a feeling of consciousness of ourselves, a piece of self-awareness. It gives us a sensitivity to the effect sounds makes on a speaker and listener, way beyond thought and emotion.

Speaking this truth of ourselves through the note of our voice is liberating. It directs and shapes our identity. We use our voice in most things we do; expressing our needs, describing feelings, saying words of love, – or war – praising, criticising, blaming, rejecting. A voice can drive us crazy with irritation, enfold us with trust and love, sooth or seduce us, inspire us with trust and love, command us with authority, inspire or mesmerise. The voice resonates with truth of who we are and expresses our power, or lack thereof, in sound.

Why is it so hard then to find these true sounds, this authentic voice, which supports our power to create and has a positive influence on ourselves and others? These words are not meaningless. Think of the power of the voice of Winston Churchill rallying a nation in the Second World War. I was watching a particularly acrimonious political debate on television. It was the person whose voice expressed something profound of herself who restored some reason and order. She literally soothed and calmed. In South Africa many of us do not have a sense of confidence in our president at this time, Jacob Zuma. He does not speak with conviction or strength, his voice holds no gravitas. Have you noticed how someone who speaks with a whine can irritate?

If as a child we were not able to express ourselves freely because we have been belittled or humiliated, ignored, told to keep quiet or we became fearful of speaking for any reason, it causes a blockage in our throat chakra, the vortex though which we express ourselves in sound. Put in another way, we are prevented from expressing our soul, the fullness of who we are, through our voice, a major way in which we put ourselves ‘out there’.

Many accounts describe how the most difficult step in the journey of personal growth is the 20cm jump from solar plexus to heart. Living from the solar plexus is a third dimensional experience. Mind is king and the world is experienced though the fives senses. With the jump to the heart life changes to one of feeling and sensing, the world is no longer concrete. I am certain however, that the most difficult leap is to open the throat because we are then faced with all our fears. If we speak our truth we feel we may be in danger of being reprimanded, threatened, even abandoned or rejected, so in short, love will be withheld. These are childhood fears but emotions are not rational and they have to be faced and understood in order to be released.

When an unblocked throat chakra is connected to a heart, the sound comes from deep within you and has the power to transform your life. When you are sounding your true note you are living from your wonderful, authentic, unique self, with authenticity, your confidence increases and you become someone who is heard but also hears others. Going back to the Mayan belief that sound creates the world, you have the power to create the life you really want and to ground you dreams.

Finding your voice is a vast and profound subject, I can hardly do it justice in this short space and delicious illustrative stories keep popping into my mind but it is more important to give you some practical guidelines to assist you to discover your beautiful true sound and to express it with energy and joy.

First, check you are breathing deeply and freely so your breath can support your voice. They work together. Poor breathing = weak voice, strong supportive breath = a strong voice resonating with your self.

Natalia

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TO EXPERIENCE YOUR BREATH SUPPORTING THE SOUND OF YOUR VOICE

Lie-down and relax by breathing in slowly and deeply and as you exhale, breathe out all tension, stress or disturbing feelings. When your body is free and feels softer, breathe in slowly and at the same time imagine a ball of coloured light (gold is good to work with) descending from your crown to the base of your spine. Notice the fullness of this breath and how your ribs expand. Do this a few times.

Now add a vowel to the exhalation: OO, AH, EE, AY, I.

When you feel the ribs quite steady add sentences. Take a line from a poem, song or nursery rhyme. Shakespeare’s sonnet ‘Shall I compare thee to a summer’s day?’ is as good as any.

Speak your feelings and thoughts.

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How did your voice sound? How is it different to how you normally sound? How do you feel? Now do the process again, but this time stand.

Secondly, here is a powerful visualisation to clear and open the throat chakra. If your throat chakra is very closed it would be helpful if you could do this several times a week. It does not take long.

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VISUALISATION TO CLEAR AND OPEN YOUR THROAT CHAKRA

Make yourself comfortable with a lengthened spine.

Start to breathe slowly and deeply, letting all tension go on the exhalation.

As you start to relax turn your focus inward. Breathe gently in and out of your throat chakra. It is situated in the depression in the base of the front of your neck and the colour is blue.

After a few breaths see a tiny spark of blue there. Feed it with the breath until it becomes a big sphere of blue light but notice it has some bits of debris in it. Its actual size is the diameter of a little marble but for the process make it as big as a tennis ball.

Now spin it to your right and as it spins imagine it throwing out garbage: slimy, prickly, rough, tough, hard, smelly or dirty bits and pieces.
As it spins them out they fly off and disappear. They represent the blockages in this chakra.

As this centre ejects them see the sphere of light becoming a radiant, translucent blue and spinning quicker. It is beautiful.

Spin as long as you like and experience the openness of this chakra.

Affirm: I AM WHOLE. I SPEAK MY TRUTH WITH CONFIDENCE AND CLARITY. MY WORDS ARE CONNECTED TO MY HEART. MY VOICE IS STRONG AND CLEAR AND EXPRESES WHO I TRULY AM.
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